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Death Doula Support Role

by Patti Urban, CDP, CSA

Death doulas, also known as end-of-life doulas, are non-medical professionals trained to provide emotional, practical, and spiritual support to people who are nearing the end of their lives, as well as to their families and loved ones. This support can take many forms, including helping with decision-making, providing companionship and comfort, and assisting with end-of-life care planning.

The role of a death doula is to be a steady presence and a source of comfort during one of the most difficult and emotional times in a person's life. They help individuals and families navigate the practical and emotional aspects of end-of-life care. This can include everything from helping with advanced care planning, to providing emotional support, to assisting with physical comfort measures, to creating a peaceful and meaningful end-of-life experience.

One of the key ways death doulas provide support is by helping individuals and families understand and navigate the medical system. They can help explain complicated medical procedures and terminology, assist with decision-making about treatments, and advocate for the individual's wishes and preferences. Death doulas can also help families communicate with healthcare providers and coordinate care.

Additionally, death doulas provide emotional support to individuals and families during this difficult time. They listen, provide a listening ear and comfort. They may also help individuals process their emotions and come to terms with their mortality. They can also provide support to family members as they grieve and adjust to life without their loved one.

The Death Doula care also includes the spiritual aspect of an individual’s end-of-life journey. They work with individuals and families to create a meaningful and personalized end-of-life experience that reflects the individual's beliefs, values, and cultural background. They can also provide support and guidance for those who wish to have a home-based death, or who would like to explore alternative end-of-life options such as hospice or palliative care.

Death doulas often work with other members of the healthcare team, such as nurses, doctors, and hospice workers, to ensure that individuals and families receive comprehensive and coordinated care. However, their role is distinct and it is to provide personal care and advocacy to the person and family who are in the end-of-life journey

In conclusion, Death doulas play an important role in supporting individuals and families during the end-of-life journey. They provide practical and emotional support, helping individuals and families navigate the medical system, and provide a steady presence during one of the most difficult times in a person's life. With the guidance and support of death doulas, individuals and families can experience a peaceful and meaningful end-of-life journey.

To find a Death Doula, visit the National End-of-Life Doula Alliance (NEDA) at


Patti Urban, CDP, CSA, is the CEO of Aging Care Planning Solutions, a geriatric care management practice that assists the elderly and their families with advance care planning as well as guidance for patients with life-limiting illnesses. She is also a Certified Dementia Practitioner, Certified End of Life Doula, a Certified Senior Advisor, former Executive Director of a memory-care assisted living community, and former owner of a home care agency. She can be reached at


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